How to dress for a first date at 40 | Fashion The Trust Project

If 50 is the new 40, what is 40? The realm of confusion. Like a second adolescence, 40 is for many women a strange territory halfway between willful youth and 'non petita' maturity, a landscape that has not yet been defined; an age where, moreover, many begin a new life (the average age at which women divorce in Spain is, according to INE data, 45.3 years), often with the desire and energy to start a new relationship of couple Interest in self-care is reviving, and is even increasing, according to experts such as plastic surgeon Moisés Martín Anaya, hand in hand with divorces, the demand for plastic surgeries and other aesthetic interventions.

And now, to the chopping block: we have turned 40, we are free almost like the wind and we have a first date. How to dress? In a way that makes us look younger? In a way that conveys our philosophy of life? Aseptically so as not to give too many clues? Sexier impossible? Nothing sexy just in case? How can God make me understand? Overwhelmed by so much doubt, the best thing I can think of is to consult an expert, Marta Escoda, @emquedabe on her Instagram account (more than 130,000 followers), a successful personal shopper and image consultant.

We clear up a first doubt: in general, for any age..., for a first date should one dress in a specific way? "Normally, yes," explains Escoda. "Of course, the intention on a first date is to be liked, so we dress up a little more and try to enhance our virtues. For a first date, I would always recommend dressing safely first and then with pieces that enhance and enhance the best of each a".

Clothes speak of all of us and not only that, they also build us. So much so that, as the French sociologist Jean-Claude Kaufmann wrote a few years ago, the sight of old underpants after a first night of love between the sheets can put an end to what could have been a wonderful relationship. "Whether we like it or not", says Marta Escoda, "our look is the first thing that others see and through it they already get an idea -right or wrong- of how we are". Thus, we can 'help' our clothes to talk more or less about us on that first date, everything will depend, explains the personal shopper, "on the cards that each one wants to show".

ENHANCE OUR VIRTUES

And now, let's focus on our 40s, that's what we came for. Should we be seduced by the idea of ​​dressing to look younger or is that bread for today and hunger for tomorrow? "I think we can take advantage of ourselves without wanting to appear younger," says Marta Escoda. "The key is to enhance our virtues and try to hide what we don't like. I am one of those who think that the key is to be the best version of yourself."

For our first date at 40, the style consultant would also never recommend "wearing pieces of clothing that you don't feel comfortable with, that have nothing to do with you, because in the end they will reflect your discomfort. a little less risky, but one that makes you feel comfortable and safe. I would never recommend trying to look like something you're not."

But, of course, not all of us are, in this type of situation, sure enough of ourselves to choose clothes that make us feel... sure of ourselves (the same for going to the office, yes, but for a first date , Well, no). In that case, is there a wild card, a style or garment that will always be a hit? "It is very difficult to answer this question. I am not in favor of betting on a single look. There is a perfect look for each woman and it will depend on her style, but above all on her type and physical characteristics."

DAY OR NIGHT IS NOT THE SAME

Well go. Little mishap. We keep digging: let's say it's a first day date: any general recommendations? "It is important to be clear about the place where you are going to go, since it is not the same to go to the park, the beach, a meal in the open air or have a coffee in a shopping center. And, above all, you have to avoid being dressed as if it were a date night". Let's say that, on the contrary, the date is at night: pull classics or better innovate a little? "It is true that the classics never fail and that is why they continue to be classics year after year. So I would surely pull on a basic look, but with a personal touch that makes it special and above all, I insist, choose clothes with which you feel nice and comfortable."

We are not going to repeat here the classic idea that people are known by their shoes -they can be new or old, but always impeccable and clean- and by their nails (what a frightening sight of a chipped manicure or nails of mourning...), oops, wow, I just repeated it, but makeup is a must, for which Marta Escoda recommends "doing it as each one normally does, and that it helps to enhance the best of your features", And the hair, loose or collected? "I continue with the same. The premise should always be that you feel comfortable, safe and beautiful. In order to be liked by others, you first have to like yourself."

With the permission of the expert, it wouldn't hurt to take a look at this article by our Beauty director, Marta Sotillo, about wildcard and express makeup, which works perfectly at 40 (although not only). And, why not, also to these haircuts capable of refreshing any look without radically changing it. So that you continue to be you.